High school whaaaaat?

So I watched Dr. Phil yesterday, and it was so sad that I witnessed these grown adults still impacted by relationships and incidents that happened in high school. I could not believe these people would get on national tv and admit these insecurities. How vulnerable they must've felt, but how much more their pain must be to go through with the show. There were four people interviewed, and I want to concentrate on the two women. Maybe it's easier to write about b/c I am a woman, I dont' know. Anyway, this beautiful blonde was obviously very hurt by being the nerd in high school. She spent years as a "dancer" in a night club in front of men getting attention trying to prove to herself that she wasn't a "nerd" and was attractive. On the show you could tell she was still shaken to the core about this issue and lost all confidence, and with the popular girl that intimidated her in high school sitting across from her on the show, made her even more insecure. I just couldn't believe how, what, 20 years later she was still affected by what happened so long ago. What's worse, is that the popular girl acted as if she had no idea and didn't care. She was still living in the "i'm a popular girl" phase from high school and acting unaware of anyone else around her. A grown woman so engrossed in her own beauty and popularity that I'm not sure she's matured at all from high school. What makes me so sad, is that their identity is still based off of who they were in high school. So what am I trying to say? Well, for starters, how many people out there still identify themselves as they were known in high school. No matter who you were then, the jock, the poor kid, the popular girl, the geek, shouldn't we all grow out of that and become who we're supposed to be as adults. Forgiving and letting go the past. More importantly, God changes people from the inside out. He changed me from the inside out. I made horrible mistakes as a high schooler. Ask anyone who went to school with me. I partied, I lost my virginity and then some, people liked me, people hated me, it never ends. But when I let God help me, he changed my identity and he changed my perspective. I changed so much and am so different now than I was, and yes it did take time, I still fight insecurity. But for those two women to still have their identity be based on what happened in high school, it's soooo sad. There's so much more to life.